Having a best friend is a wonderful part of life. You’ll laugh together, cry together, and be there for one another through all of life’s many challenges. But what do you do when your closest confidant is moving away? Most likely you will be shocked and completely saddened by the news. However upset and confused you may feel in this situation, you need to remember that your friend is probably even more stressed and worried by the imminent changes they will soon be facing. During this time, they will need you more than ever. So what can you do to help them, comfort them, and reduce some of their stress? Continue reading to find out.
It can be tough to evoke happiness when a best friend moves away. It can be a very sad situation, after all. But being supportive will help reassure your friend that their future endeavor is going to be okay. Here are some ways to show your support:
- Offering your excitement is a great way to show your support for them and their impending move, so push away the sadness and put on your bravest face. Take some time to research positive aspects of the area your friend is moving to, and let them in on the many cool things you find. Telling them that their soon-to-be home and town have a lot of great qualities will help assure them they are making the right decision. It is also a good idea to encourage them to explore their new location at length and to make every effort to adjust to their new environment.
- Be Sympathetic. Moving is a big deal – one of the largest changes one can make in their lifetime. So it goes without saying that your friend will experience plenty of apprehensions and worries, expectations and hopes regarding their relocation. A good way to be there for your friend is to be sympathetic and lend an ear. Listen intently to everything they have to say to help them vent their feelings, and try to come up with some useful and reasonable advice. Your efforts to ease their anxiety will reassure them things are soon to change for the better.
- It’s also important to tell them you will miss them, but that their relocation will have no effect on your relationship, nor will it sever your special bond.
Lend a Helping Hand
Moving is hard. It comes with a never-ending list of tasks to accomplish, from organizing and packing to loading and unloading the moving truck. It may feel difficult to actually help your friend move away from you, but it’s important to push your self-pity aside and lend a helping hand. Doing so will save your pal lots of time and will help them avoid moving scams. Here’s how:
Find your friend a reliable moving company:
- Ask all of your friends, relatives and acquaintances who have recently moved for their opinions, recommendations and feedback on moving companies they have worked with;
- Research how to prevent moving fraud and ensure a safe relocation;
- Read online moving reviews, visit websites and compare the cost and conditions different moving companies offer;
- Make a list of licensed, insured and trustworthy movers that meet your friend’s unique moving needs.
Help your friend organize and pack:
Sorting out a lifetime’s worth of belongings and packing each and every item safely for shipment is a time-consuming and laborious process. A process that your friend will be more than thrilled to have your help with. To aid in these moving tasks:
- Spend a few hours at your friend’s place, and help organize their belongings. It may sound tedious, but it can actually be a fun experience. You’ll get some quality time together and relish old memories you’ve shared in the past as you happen upon half-forgotten items.
- As you help your friend sort through their possessions, act as the deciding vote as to which items they should definitely keep and which they can live without. Your decision making will come as a welcome help when making the hard choice of whether to keep or diss certain possessions. If there is time, take your organizational skills one step further and help your friend organize a garage sale. Selling their unwanted items can earn them some extra cash to make the moving process less stressful. You can also help them by taking their unwanted things to a charity center or recycle center.
- Collect any packing supplies you may have at your house, and give them to your friend. Every cardboard box or roll of tape you are not using can come in very useful for them; it will also save them money on packing materials.
- When all of your buddy’s belongings have been organized and they have the necessary moving supplies, help them pack their belongings safely and efficiently. This means wrapping and packing all items with utmost care and making sure all boxes are well padded, tightly sealed and properly labeled.
Offer to Help on Moving Day
The greatest challenge your friend will face in the relocation process is moving day. Not only will it be physically challenging, it will be emotionally challenging too. Your help and support on this stressful day will be of utmost value. Here are some things you can do:
- Arrive at your friend’s place a couple hours before the moving truck or movers arrive in order to help them handle any last-minute tasks – removing obstacles from entryways, covering floors, walls and bannisters with protective materials, etc.
- If your friend has kids and/or pets, offer to take care of them during the move. Knowing everyone is safe and cared for will remove a great deal of stress during this stage of your friend’s move.
- Moving day takes many hours to complete, which means everyone’s appetites will be quite high when all is said and done. A good way to offer your friend help on the day of their move is by supplying food. Whether you provide snacks, a homemade meal, or just order some pizzas, your efforts will be greatly appreciated.
Continue on to part 2 of this blog series to learn even more things you can do when your friend moves away.