Moving to a new home can be exciting. This is especially true when your relocation involves bunking up with your significant other. You probably have lots of positive images floating around inside your head about how great it will be – spending time with someone special to you and being able to support and help each other out. But will such a serious move be all sunshine and rainbows? Realistically speaking, probably not. While moving in together works out well for some couples, we have all heard that dreaded story of the couple that moved in together and ran headfirst into a messy disaster. What can you do to bypass trouble and make moving in together a success? Check out the list below for some useful tips!
Discuss Goals. Before moving in together, it is very important to discuss each other’s relationship goals. Where do each of you see your relationship going? Marriage? Kids? What if one of you hopes for these things and one of you doesn’t? If after living together for six months to one year you find out you both want totally different things, it could be truly disappointing for both of you. If you find out future relationship goals sync up, then proceed to our next tip!
Question Yourself. It’s not all about what the other person in your relationship want. You matter, too. So question yourself before making a too-quick decision on moving in with your supposed “other half”. Ask yourself how you really feel about your boyfriend or girlfriend. Do you know each other well enough to move in together? Have you been together long enough? Are you truly comfortable with each other? Having a common vision for the future is great, but is it enough to sustain your relationship?
Don’t Rush. Casually dating and living together are two very different things. Instead of just visiting each other, you will basically be living in each other’s pockets. It will take time to get used to each other’s constant presence and your new life together in general. You will be sharing the responsibility of paying bills and doing household chores. Living together will only work if you both do your part. Are you ready?
Make a Chore Agreement. Speaking of the chores we mentioned you having to share when living with a boyfriend or girlfriend, it is a good idea to make a chore agreement before moving in together. It may seem difficult to discuss or even think about before the move takes place, but you will be glad you did. Doing so will make the new transition of living together much smoother. Your agreement should set responsibilities for each of you, such as paying bills, taking out the trash, cooking, cleaning, etc.
Be Patient with Imperfections. No one is perfect, and nothing will make you realize this more than living with another person. So be prepared to learn all of your boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s many imperfections after moving in together. Everyone has the right to be themselves and live comfortably in their home, and being patient with each other is the best way to make all of those little imperfections that each of you have easier to handle.
Plan an Organized Move. Anyone who has ever moved house will tell you that moving is not easy! Luckily, there are many things you and your significant other can do to make moving an organized and stress-free process.
First, you should both be involved in finding the perfect home, so choose a neighborhood and place that you both like. Once you find a place to live, you can then plan the move together. You can hire a moving company or help each other with the relocation process. A good example of teamwork is having one person wrap and pack items, while the other moves heavy boxes and furniture.
Another good way to have an organized move is to discuss beforehand what items you will each bring to your new home. You don’t need two toasters or two microwaves, right? Configuring a list of essential items each of you should move will cut down on costs and stress, and ultimately help make packing and moving a more organized event.
Stay True to Yourself. When first moving in with your boyfriend or girlfriend, it can be easy to become wrapped up in just each other, leaving friends, family and responsibilities on the back burner. But as great as it is to live within the same four walls and share your life with someone, it is also important to remain an individual with goals, ambitions and plans of your own. For instance, if you’ve always met with a certain friend once a month for lunch or drinks, continue to do so. Just be up-front with your partner so they know what to expect. Communication and being open about your needs will give you the opportunity to continue doing things that you like and that are important to you. Suppressing yourself, on the other hand, will not work out in the long run. Instead of being happy, you will be miserable and wish to change or end the relationship.
Now that you know some useful tips, you are one step closer to a successful move-in with the special person in your life. Are there other things you’d like to add to the list? Comment below to let us and our readers know! For more moving tips and tricks, click here.